Sometimes it's You

I know, I know bullying is something bullies do but sometimes it's you. Sometimes you have to sit back and take a good look at yourself. Because you may just be guilty of doing things that really cause people to bully you.

Maybe you are a little arrogant without realizing it. You outwardly show people you believe you are far more important than they are. It's crazy but this is very possible despite being bullied and having low self-confidence.

Maybe you brag a lot about your new toys that are better than other peoples. Some of these things leave people feeling devalued and like they are worth less and they last out against you. Simply because kids are cruel and can't quite make the links which adults can. In the adult world those actions result in co-working being civil to you when required but often see to it they don't invite you to functions that are not on the company dime.

On the flip side, you may not be getting bullied but maybe your just getting excluded from things because your shy or quiet and often have never asked to be included. When I was in early grade school this was the case for me. I was excluded from most things because I was quiet and never asked to play with the other children. They just thought I preferred to play a lone.

So take a good look at yourself maybe you are doing something that has contributed to your own bullying without you really knowing about it.

The List of Ten

Sometimes being bullied can lead you to very dark places. Can make you feel like your all alone and nobody cares. Actually come to think of it sometimes Life in general can leave you feeling like that.  I found myself in this position several times. A place so dark, you consider taking yourself out of the equation. Putting yourself down ending your own life. I've been there, one night I wrote a list of ten.

A list of ten things I loved about life. I was probably fifteen so the list probably had things like Listening to Music, Playing Gameboy and things of that nature. I couldn't do any of these things ever again if I knocked myself off. Essentially I gave myself some reason to stick around. Try writing a list of ten things you love about life and start creating reasons to stick around. You begin to find a lot of things out about yourself

Over the years these lists have played a part in my life. Something that started out of negativity turned into positivity. 10 Things I want to accomplish this year, The ten places I want to visit most, 10 things I want to learn and the list of lists goes on

Next time your in a rut folks try making a list.