Cyber bullying is for losers

We live in a 21st century world, right? no really we are in the 21st century, I think. I've only been around for 23 years and can't say I've seen to many centuries. Sorry lost track, not my fault! Get a calendar. All thats to say the face of bullying has evolved, while truthfully we as human being are kind of the same stupid species we have been since the dawn of time. I'm not an evolutionist ( That is a story for another day folks) but I promise I will share it in the future.

The thing with cyber bullying is, it's constant. Unlike playground and school bullies this follows you home. You should never let one bad apple spoil the bunch and thats exactly what cyber bullying is a bad apple, you can't let it spoil you daily internet romps. You really have sit back and laugh at cyber bullies. As far as bullies go, cyber bullies have no balls because they can't do it to your face. Do you know what that means? You are stronger than they are and they know it. So they are cowering behind the iron curtain of the internet to make fun of you and thinking it makes them a tough guy. It's a lot like a guy who spends all his time playing snowboard video games, thinking that makes him pro on all things snowboarding while being to scared to actually you know, snowboard. Kinda silly isn't it?

There are a lot of things you can do to deal with cyber bullying. I have to admit, I've cyber bullied some of my own cyber bullies back when I was young. It's not something I'm proud of. I was probably far more cruel back than they ever were to me. Don't Bully them back, that isn't standing up for yourself. That is called being a bully. Here are some positive things.

1. If your being cyber bullied over email block the person. When it comes to emails share your email with your friends and don't bother reading emails from people who are not in your contact list. This effectively eliminates school bullies from messing with you at home. It's also a very good practice in general.

2.  Having trouble in an online community, find a new one or if your feeling ambitious create your own. Than you can moderate who is in the community and who isn't. This really helped me back in the days of MSN groups. ( MSN groups are for old guys like me. It was Facebook's great great grandfather and Dinosaurs walked the earth). I learned a lot about networking, marketing and promotion. Skills to last a life time.

3. Make them look stupid, this really rattles their cages and it's kind of fun to watch them scramble. read everything they say. If they call you stupid find something they said that was stupid. Your paying attention to important details, retaining information, following your sources these are some things that will carry you a long way in school.

Always remember just how stupid Cyber Bullying and Cyber Bullies are and you'll be fine.

-H

The List of Ten

Sometimes being bullied can lead you to very dark places. Can make you feel like your all alone and nobody cares. Actually come to think of it sometimes Life in general can leave you feeling like that.  I found myself in this position several times. A place so dark, you consider taking yourself out of the equation. Putting yourself down ending your own life. I've been there, one night I wrote a list of ten.

A list of ten things I loved about life. I was probably fifteen so the list probably had things like Listening to Music, Playing Gameboy and things of that nature. I couldn't do any of these things ever again if I knocked myself off. Essentially I gave myself some reason to stick around. Try writing a list of ten things you love about life and start creating reasons to stick around. You begin to find a lot of things out about yourself

Over the years these lists have played a part in my life. Something that started out of negativity turned into positivity. 10 Things I want to accomplish this year, The ten places I want to visit most, 10 things I want to learn and the list of lists goes on

Next time your in a rut folks try making a list.

Getting Made Fun Of.......Then Do It RIGHT BACK!

I'm a realist. growing up, you are going to be made fun of at some point in your life. You'll later go on to be made fun of sometimes as an adult. Thankfully adults have a little something called tact, usually. Since you'll most likely be made fun of by somebody you don't like and it might sting at times, you might as well learn how to deal. Being made fun of is supposed to be harmless by nature. Think about it, you've probably made fun of your little dorky brother and he's made fun of you.  I noticed this when I was around fifteen. When it came to being made fun of, it wasn't so much being made fun of that got to me. It was when people who bullied me did it.

Bullies always seek some kind of reaction. Normally an expected reaction, Bullies expect you to cry or be upset; They do not expect the unexpected. I decided, to play this in my favor, give them a reaction they were not expecting. I learned to make fun of myself.  When they made fun of me, I did it right back.....I Made Fun Of Myself.

Making fun of yourself does a few things with bullies they get bored because they are not causing the reactions they want and bugger off or they start to laugh which is all fine and dandy because it's healthy, you've contributed to their longevity.

However this also effects you, you begin to find out the very things about yourself that your making fun of are things you actually kind of like.  You find yourself not caring what people think about them because you like them. When your able to make fun of yourself and have fun doing it. When other people do it you just see is as pointless fun and when there really bad at it, you find them tasteless.

So next time you get made fun of, trying making fun of yourself right back.
- H