Just WOW! It's time to talk.

Hey whats up? I hope everyone who is reading this, is having a good day. If your not, cheer up because life is good even when you can't always see it.  I know this quite a departure from the usual postings of this blog but sometimes I gotta throw caution to the wind. Let my reader know a little bit about me. Today I received an amazing message from a mother who had seen my blog through PBteen's Facebook. We shall call her J.J. Her son has been the brunt of some bullying. However he has grown and dealt with being bullied with some real class. He's made some knew friends and knows they are his friends and doesn't let his bully get him down. I can often be a little insecure about my own work and it was really nice to receive a little insurance that I was doing a good job.

J.J's  cousin's son God Rest his soul took his own life due to bullying, No one knew it was that bad. That is something you hear far to often from those left in the wake. When your being bullied, you learn to wear masks. I always had the biggest forced smile on my face but not to many knew just how much I was hurting. Because everything seemed alright.

I got to a point where, I didn't want to exist. I wanted it all to stop the voices of self-doubt, the constant loop of taunts and jeers from my so called peers that bounced around my head late at night. I wanted the dark and the hurt to just stop. I got so far down that road I set a date for my own self-execution when I was eighteen. I realized I'd gotten to the point where I was no longer thinking about taking my life, I was going to do it.

At that point, I realized I had to grow a pair of balls and talk to somebody that had been around the block a few times not another kid to confide in. I had set all my pride and fears of being rejected for being seen as a wimp off to the side and just talk. I ended up talking to the new principal of high school. He actually was in the admissions department as an accountant and the first person I ever met at the school. I probably never told him every thing in high definition detail but I talked with him a lot and that really helped ground me and gave me something to reach out and grab on to when things got to dark.

Communication is one of the most basic and important life skills a person could have. Learning to really communicate and have deep conversation really helps you out in life. You discover things about yourself and stuff about those your talking to. You'll often discover the advice you were not really asking for or looking for but know it'll come in handy. Don't get stuck in the dark find a mentor to talk to. It  doesn't always have to be mom or dad, it could be a sports coach, teacher, a church pastor or elder but it has to be someone you know you can trust and that your safe with. I've even had a few meaningful talks with local police officers and FireFighters at the local station.

Anyways it's long past a Hutch's bedtime so I'm going now G'night folks.
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Why

Name: Hutch
Stereotype: NO
Victim: YES
Status: Survivor





This is a project I have been fighting with myself over for quite sometime. Should I Do It? Why Should I Do It? No I Shouldn't Do it? the list goes on. Since you are reading this, my choice to do this has been made obvious.  I'm doing this because I can. I'm doing this because I don't like aspects of whats out there and I'm doing this, Because I've been there and I've survived.

I Hutch was bullied not just by my classmates but those in authority. I said I did not agree with a lot of the current projects geared toward bullying and it's truth. Right now if you honestly paid attention to the ones you here about are largely LGBT centric. It's as if only people within the LGBT community will suffer bullying of some sort in school. The truth is everyone can be bullied but not everyone does get bullied.  I have a problem with " It Gets Better" not so much the organization but it's name, it's very wait and see and not very PRO-ACTIVE and I'm not referring to the pimple cream you've got stashed away in your underwear drawer.

There are a lot of movements to END bullying, I've pitched my own bits toward some of these small uprisings on youtube. However you never here anything about how to deal with being bullied and how to deal with bullies when your the one being bullied. So I'll be that one who talks about how to deal with being bullied, how to handle it. Because I've been there. Consider this if you will " Hutch's DeClassified Bullies Survival Guide". I'm no psychologist but if you give me a chance and take me on, I'll give you my TIPS the things that really worked for me and helped me get to where I am.