The List of Ten

Sometimes being bullied can lead you to very dark places. Can make you feel like your all alone and nobody cares. Actually come to think of it sometimes Life in general can leave you feeling like that.  I found myself in this position several times. A place so dark, you consider taking yourself out of the equation. Putting yourself down ending your own life. I've been there, one night I wrote a list of ten.

A list of ten things I loved about life. I was probably fifteen so the list probably had things like Listening to Music, Playing Gameboy and things of that nature. I couldn't do any of these things ever again if I knocked myself off. Essentially I gave myself some reason to stick around. Try writing a list of ten things you love about life and start creating reasons to stick around. You begin to find a lot of things out about yourself

Over the years these lists have played a part in my life. Something that started out of negativity turned into positivity. 10 Things I want to accomplish this year, The ten places I want to visit most, 10 things I want to learn and the list of lists goes on

Next time your in a rut folks try making a list.

I don't Fit In

By nature we crave fitting it, we all want to feel like we belong. In grade school that often can be a tall order; especially when your frequently being bullied. I had quite a lot of trouble fitting in at school. There were quite a few days where I ate my lunches alone. 

What really helped me with this feeling of being alone and not fitting in was being involved on sports teams.  Not only did I discover some sports I was good at, I made a few after school friends and got a good work out; I found a place where I belonged. 

Maybe your not really an athletic person, there are so many clubs and groups for young people to join. Ask your parents about joining a program with the local boys and girls club in your area. You can meet some new kids and have a place to hang out.

Maybe your an outdoors person there are so many opportunities for friendships and new skills offered through Scouting troops. There are countless programs for older kids offered by your countries arms forces in the form of Cadet programs or JROTCs the options are endless.

I know trying something new like that is scary. I remember my first year playing baseball, I was nine. I grew up on the ice rink and never had anything to do during the spring and summer. I always liked baseball and I did have an arm on me. My dad signed me up and I was so scared to go. Needless to say by the end of the summer I had some new friends and it was the best summer I ever had. I ended up playing for nearly 10 years and those were summer of the best summers of my life.

If you don't fit in at school, give it time and start looking for a club or a sport team and find a spot to fit in.

P.S

If your reading this blog....feel free to leave a comment. I love to get feed back and it'll definitely help steer this project. Maybe there is a problem that your facing with bullying that made I could give my opinion on and it might just help other people as well.

See you all around Next week for a new tip.

-H

Getting Made Fun Of.......Then Do It RIGHT BACK!

I'm a realist. growing up, you are going to be made fun of at some point in your life. You'll later go on to be made fun of sometimes as an adult. Thankfully adults have a little something called tact, usually. Since you'll most likely be made fun of by somebody you don't like and it might sting at times, you might as well learn how to deal. Being made fun of is supposed to be harmless by nature. Think about it, you've probably made fun of your little dorky brother and he's made fun of you.  I noticed this when I was around fifteen. When it came to being made fun of, it wasn't so much being made fun of that got to me. It was when people who bullied me did it.

Bullies always seek some kind of reaction. Normally an expected reaction, Bullies expect you to cry or be upset; They do not expect the unexpected. I decided, to play this in my favor, give them a reaction they were not expecting. I learned to make fun of myself.  When they made fun of me, I did it right back.....I Made Fun Of Myself.

Making fun of yourself does a few things with bullies they get bored because they are not causing the reactions they want and bugger off or they start to laugh which is all fine and dandy because it's healthy, you've contributed to their longevity.

However this also effects you, you begin to find out the very things about yourself that your making fun of are things you actually kind of like.  You find yourself not caring what people think about them because you like them. When your able to make fun of yourself and have fun doing it. When other people do it you just see is as pointless fun and when there really bad at it, you find them tasteless.

So next time you get made fun of, trying making fun of yourself right back.
- H

Why

Name: Hutch
Stereotype: NO
Victim: YES
Status: Survivor





This is a project I have been fighting with myself over for quite sometime. Should I Do It? Why Should I Do It? No I Shouldn't Do it? the list goes on. Since you are reading this, my choice to do this has been made obvious.  I'm doing this because I can. I'm doing this because I don't like aspects of whats out there and I'm doing this, Because I've been there and I've survived.

I Hutch was bullied not just by my classmates but those in authority. I said I did not agree with a lot of the current projects geared toward bullying and it's truth. Right now if you honestly paid attention to the ones you here about are largely LGBT centric. It's as if only people within the LGBT community will suffer bullying of some sort in school. The truth is everyone can be bullied but not everyone does get bullied.  I have a problem with " It Gets Better" not so much the organization but it's name, it's very wait and see and not very PRO-ACTIVE and I'm not referring to the pimple cream you've got stashed away in your underwear drawer.

There are a lot of movements to END bullying, I've pitched my own bits toward some of these small uprisings on youtube. However you never here anything about how to deal with being bullied and how to deal with bullies when your the one being bullied. So I'll be that one who talks about how to deal with being bullied, how to handle it. Because I've been there. Consider this if you will " Hutch's DeClassified Bullies Survival Guide". I'm no psychologist but if you give me a chance and take me on, I'll give you my TIPS the things that really worked for me and helped me get to where I am.